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Marriage is a sacrifice. I hear this often. Do you believe that?
Before you answer, consider the definition of sacrifice.
“An act of slaughtering an animal or person or surrendering a possession as an offering to God or to a divine or supernatural figure.”
Ok, maybe you’re not actually slaughtering an animal, but…
Are you slaughtering yourself for a divine ideal?
Most men I talk with say, “What do you mean, divine ideal?”
And so we talk more. They tell me about the state of their marriage.
How they don’t feel connected to their wife. There’s little sex. Very little respect. There’s tension in the kitchen. Stress at the dinner table. And anxiety in the bedroom. …
You should have seen your mother and I on the day of our first Ultrasound appointment with her OB/GYN.
In typical fashion, we were cutting it close for our appointment, and true to form, thinking we were closer to the Doctor’s Office than we actually were, I parked the car about 10 minutes away.
Your mother and I argued about how close the office was. She, of course, was right (something, if you’d come to know, was the case 90% of the time).
“Look babe, we made it just in time!” I said to your mom, as we walked through the doors of the medical office in Medford. …
Love is a broad topic that no one can ever get to understand nor explain fully. Most people know of the good that comes out of love, but are you also familiar with enemies of love? Enemies of love, such as sadness and loneliness tend to hinder people from receiving and reciprocating this beautiful feeling, which is what this post is about. Guest author Miranda Davis shares her thoughts on these enemies of love and what to do about them.
Every story has a flip side — the good and the bad, the right and the wrong, and love is no exception as it has some enemies. …
German economist Karl Marx is best known for his critiques of capitalism, not his assessments of love — he offered no labour theory of love, just a labour theory of value.
However, Marx’s critiques were deeply rooted in the impact capitalism had on the human condition. He suggested that capitalist society turned individuals into cogs in a machine, living only to serve the economic structure in which they resided and, in the process, lost much of their own self — becoming “alien” to their true nature.
This sentiment is summed up well by Ewan Macgregor’s opening monologue in the film Trainspotting: “Choose a job. Choose a career. Choose a family. Choose a fucking big television. Choose washing machines, cars, compact disc players and electrical tin openers. Choose good health, low cholesterol, and dental insurance. Choose fixed-interest mortgage repayments. …
Many of us have traversed the path of a new relationship more than once in our lives.
First, boy meets girl.
Girl and boy feel an attraction and enjoy each other’s company.
Boy and girl spend more time together and the feelings of friendship and romance grow.
Boy and girl get married, have babies, and live happily ever after. Right?! Well, not all the time.
Sometimes, you are on that path, all the feels are happening when you are first falling in love. You mistake this for reality and make rash decisions. Then some things start happening that make you question if your partner really does love you. …
A PEW Research Center study once revealed that 70% of the public feels it is more difficult to be a mother today than it was 20 or 30 years prior. The key challenges cited for raising a child were societal (i.e. substance abuse, peer pressure, TV/internet/movies, etc). The study also cited the immense importance of good parenting (i.e. teaching morals, discipline, and manners).
Because of these challenges, many agree that children are more unruly today than ever before.
Though raising a child today is tough, I strongly believe that all of us, parents and otherwise, must take responsibility for ensuring that children are not brought up to be unruly. I believe that children ages 4 to 8 are in particular danger of becoming such due to their impressionable age, and so I’ve written a picture book for children that teaches lessons about morals and manners. More on that later, because I would first like to identify the 10 signs that your child has become unruly…and by another name…a brat. …
For most people, the idea of setting boundaries in relationships seem to be a bad one or something that is unnecessary. The reason why they think boundaries in relationships are bad is that they think boundaries keep people apart. However, this assumption is very incorrect.
On the contrary, it is imperative to have personal boundaries in a relationship in order to have a loving relationship. The truth is that a relationship cannot be healthy without establishing and respecting boundaries.
For the most part, we usually don’t give much attention to the existence of boundaries in our daily lives. But there are actually all sorts of boundaries all around us. Some of these boundaries are unspoken or unwritten, while others have regulations backing them. …
After 31 years, I am ending my marriage with the man that I love and it is by far the hardest thing I have ever chosen to do. It requires me to trust what I know, have faith in what I believe and to surrender to the unknown.
Over the year’s I have worked diligently towards creating a healthy and beautiful marriage. I’ve participated in marriage retreats, non-violent communication training, counseling, personal development and healing the childhood wounds. …
I was 12 years old when a grown man told me with a wink that he noticed my chest was “starting to fill in.”
Like most 12-year-old girls, my changing body was a confusing and frankly upsetting thing, and this comment threw me into a tailspin of panic and shame.
As my skinny, hairless child self was morphing into this lumpy, bumpy stranger with unpleasant hair growth and smells, the last thing I wanted was people NOTICING, most especially not a man who seemed to be taking a proprietary interest in my breasts.
I decided that action was necessary to curb these unwanted changes and attention. …