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I know good men because I married one of the best.
By Hope Castle
TRIGGER WARNING: Sexual assault and rape. All names have been changed or left out to protect the identity of the author and all related parties.
“My body, my choice” — The women in the crowd cried out.
“Her body, her choice” — The men in the crowd echoed the sentiment.
I marched in the Women’s March with my husband and my brother-in-law. I know good men because I married one of the best. …
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Are your relationship nightmares really just from dating the same person over and over?
If you ask just about any relationship expert worth their salt, one thing that they are going to tell you is if you want to be in the relationship of your dreams (which is what I call “God’s best for you”), the first thing that you should do is step back and assess your past relational “nightmares”.
OK, nightmare might be too strong of a word (perhaps), but if you’re past the age of 30 and you’re either single or divorced, you can probably admit that there were some relationships you experienced that were more like one long emotional roller coaster ride than a smooth sailing journey. …
Learn how parents can work with their children, understanding these online frontiers, while also ensuring their child’s safety with this series by Amanda Vining.
This is the first in what will be a five-part series of articles looking at the trends in social media, how teenagers and their middle school counterparts are utilizing virtual platforms, and how parents can work with their children to ensure safety on these online frontiers. The components of understanding teens and social media include being educated on the psychological and social development of adolescents, analyzing the for-profit structures that support Silicon Valley, becoming enlightened about the addictive nature of social media outlets, and working with our children to make them feel included in this conversation.
Not the kind of streaking you knew as a child . . .
To begin a discussion of teen social media trends, the current mediums must be evaluated. For today’s youth, there are five platforms that comprise the majority of online social media use: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, and Snapchat. It is the last of these platforms, Snapchat, that is causing the most chaos in the lives of teens. Unlike the other four platforms, which allow users to post at their convenience without repercussions, Snapchat has created an obligation that requires its users to be active at least every 24 hours in order to maintain “streaks” with acquaintances. …
My wife is thinking of leaving me. Is it too late to show her how much I care?
Sometimes people ask me hard questions about their relationship issues. I answer them, and sometimes we agree to share those questions and answers. Hopefully the reader asking the question will able to (re)find love and happiness — -and hopefully those reading this now will also. One caveat — -please note that I’m just another opinionated motherf*cker with a cute mug + a keen mind who happens to be insanely in love with his wife, but whatevs.
Here’s the question:
Dear Jackson,
I have read a couple of your writings on love and relationships and truly love them. I think about my relationship I have with my wife and in a lot of ways in mirrors how you and your wife are towards each other. We laugh at the silly stuff, make up our own language, enjoy the small things, and go on dates every week. Though there have been many trials in our marriage, (mostly due to my fault), it has caused a lot of that flame to die down, and my wife is contemplating leaving. Do you have any words of wisdom, ideas, something that could help me find a way to show her I still love her and want to be with her? …
It is EQUALLY possible that you are IN a relationship because you are an emotional train wreck as OUT of one.
Romantic love — probably the most desired experience on earth. More than adventure, travel, fame or success, we want to be loved in the passionate and all-encompassing way we have seen portrayed over and over again in film, literature, theater, opera, song and TV commercials. I mean, who would not want to dazzle a breathtakingly gorgeous woman with jewelry from a mall chain store, right?
Okay, that was snarky but I’m making a point — our ideas about romantic love are mostly both fictitious and commercialized. Although I have no doubt that at some time two lovers have killed themselves in frustrated passion and some guy has probably even given his wife a Lexus for Christmas tied up in a giant bow, these experiences are not the norm. …
What is the value message you are sending to your children?
If you’re hurrying, you’re not fathering well.
If you had great teachers in your life, take a moment to consider how they did it. Most likely they were very engaged with you, sharing information while they valued you. There was room for questions, curiosity, play, and understanding.
Teaching is a large part of being a father. Being a great teacher-father, one whose kids listen and learn while feeling valued is more important than just about any other role we play. As we go through the day with our children, it’s important to keep mindful that we are teaching whenever we are with them. “How am I teaching?” …
Marriage is a sacrifice. I hear this often. Do you believe that?
Marriage is a sacrifice. I hear this often. Do you believe that?
Before you answer, consider the definition of sacrifice.
“An act of slaughtering an animal or person or surrendering a possession as an offering to God or to a divine or supernatural figure.”
Ok, maybe you’re not actually slaughtering an animal, but…
Are you slaughtering yourself for a divine ideal?
Most men I talk with say, “What do you mean, divine ideal?”
And so we talk more. They tell me about the state of their marriage.
How they don’t feel connected to their wife. There’s little sex. Very little respect. There’s tension in the kitchen. Stress at the dinner table. And anxiety in the bedroom. …
I’m finally starting to deal with the pain that was left from losing you.
You should have seen your mother and I on the day of our first Ultrasound appointment with her OB/GYN.
In typical fashion, we were cutting it close for our appointment, and true to form, thinking we were closer to the Doctor’s Office than we actually were, I parked the car about 10 minutes away.
Your mother and I argued about how close the office was. She, of course, was right (something, if you’d come to know, was the case 90% of the time).
“Look babe, we made it just in time!” I said to your mom, as we walked through the doors of the medical office in Medford. …
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