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10 Everyday Relationship Issues That Aren’t Worth Freaking Out About
You can feel bored, wish they’d change, or wonder if you’ve made the right choice and still be in the right relationship.
One of the best parts of my job as a couples therapist is that I get to deliver good news. Couples come in fearing that their marriage is too far gone to fix, and I get to tell them it’s not. Yes, some people are in serious trouble and if they keep going in the direction they’re headed, their worst fears will come true. Still, most couples are simply facing normal and ordinary relationship challenges that they lack the tools to address. But normal and ordinary isn’t the same thing as easy or inconsequential. Marriage is challenging, and at times normal and ordinary can be hard to differentiate from dire.
Spend a few hours on the Internet reading marriage advice, and you might easily conclude that the only marriage worth keeping is one with no problems; that the only partner to stay with is one who never screws up.
A spouse who raises his voice or can’t express how he feels? A wife who nags or complains? Door slamming? Temper tantrums? All of these have been cited as “sure-fire” signs that your marriage is doomed. Between the…
