5 Reasons You Have to Stop Trying to Change Someone

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What To Do Instead

(These are suggestions, of course. I’m not trying to change you.)

  • Remind them you care about them and make a genuine effort to understand what’s going on. Ask questions. Listen. If they express a desire to do something different, ask “What would you like me to do?” If they have an answer in the moment, be honest about whether or not you can honor their request.
  • Create space for them to change. This means noticing and acknowledging when you see progress, no matter how small. It also includes modeling it yourself. Share your own learnings and struggles in a way that doesn’t demand the attention be on you, or make it like you know the “right way.”

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