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We have a total of 5 publications on Medium

From The Good Men Project:

Hello Love (Relationships) — Love changes us. Love makes us human.

Change Becomes You (Advice) — Life advice that will (actually) improve your life.

Equality Includes You (Social Justice) — Speaking up for humanity through intersectional social justice. Open to all.

A Parent is Born (Parenting) — Because the moment a child is born, a parent is born too.

Greener Together (Environmentalism) — Because the earth needs us. Pronto.

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What are the things that happy people do differently, and turn from an idea into an action into a recurring habit?

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By Stephanie Harrison

All the things that are good in life (great relationships, thriving communities, virtuous achievements, happiness) are founded on what my professor Angela Duckworth called “the accretion of mundane acts.”

Eating your vegetables. Practicing kindness. Building the tiny elements of a skill. Cultivating your mind to be resilient and optimistic.

Day in, day out. The accretion of mundane acts.

No one likes to admit this. We prefer to celebrate the achievements once they are complete, fawning upon the violin solo, the record-breaking swim, and the fulfilled & happy person as though they arrived ready-made that way. We aren’t…


“My fort, it’s over here. It’s secret and mine. I’ll show it to you. Only once, though. Big people aren’t supposed to be here.”

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By Tom Sheehan

Through the long slanting of the gray day I, mute and immobile, watched my son through The window, saw him use hands as tools, arms Working hard as crowbars, an energy split of The sun, my atom building a fort housed of dreams. Oh, years close such ugly jaws between father And son, between the old and the dreaming, Between the looking back and the looking forward, So I cheat sometimes and think the looking back Has more magic, the greater reserves of splendor. It happens when I stop at task to breathe against The hot sun…


Codependent couples need to consider the crossroads, treatment, recovery, and the tough choice to stay or not.

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By Sharon Martin

Deciding whether to end a relationship is a big decision.In fact, it’s one of the things I see people struggle with the most as a therapist. For a codependent, the decision to leave an addicted partner is especially hard.

You’ve tried and tried, but things don’t ever seem to get better (or at least not for long).

You’re low on self-esteem.

You’ve devoted mountains of time to taking care of and trying to fix your partner.

However, despite the conflicts and disconnection, you love and care about your partner.

You wonder what will happen to your partner…


The rise of the loud, angry white men in this moment is a product of decades of the silence of good white men.

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By John Pavlovitz

America has a white male problem.

If you’re living here and you’re not a white male, I likely don’t have to do much to convince you of that fact.

You’ve been an eyewitness.
You’ve had a front row seat to the horrors.
You’ve likely been on the receiving end of the misogyny, beared the brunt of the bigotry, and sustained the bruises of the brutality.

We’ve all seen the mass shootings, read the assault statistics, and inventoried the hate crimes and they speak for themselves. The pattern is undeniable, the repetition is clear. …


Seems when she heard “Smash the Patriarchy,” she took it quite literally.

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By Christian Curet

Raising a child is a full-time job, and I have three. There are no breaks when they’re young, even when they’re asleep, and you literally never know what is going to happen from one moment to the next. You have to stay super flexible and roll with the literal and figurative punches (for the record, they almost always go the nuts).

I feel for the parents who are regimented, super organized and your “Type-A” personalities because children will take that lifestyle and break it across their ticklish, scuffed little knees. If you don’t break, it’s a constant…


Recognizing these 20 red flags can save you a lot of time, energy, and heartache.

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By Jordan Gray

There are certain red flags that can show up early on in a relationship that, when ignored, end up being a relationship’s downfall.

For people who are prone to falling in love hard and fast, it’s good to be aware of what these red flags are so that you don’t waste time with people that aren’t meant for you. Without knowing what to look for, you could be wasting months (or years) of your dating life with the wrong partner.

Having gone through many lacklustre relationships and knowingly spent years of my life in ill-fitting pairings, this…


Give yourself permission to feel and a chance to heal.

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By Betty Russell

Do you know…

∗ Someone like Norman? Within two weeks of his live-in girlfriend’s leaving him, he was making a profile on eHarmony. He said he wanted to “move on” and prove to himself (and his ex) that he’d be okay. He was not okay. At least not yet.

∗ Someone like Janelle? When her relationship ended it was a brutal surprise. She felt blindsided and went into shock. She started working crazy overtime hours and when she was at home did nothing but binge-watch Netflix, except when she was repainting the whole house.

Or someone


Here are some thoughts from our Monday night call on “Honesty”.

By Nina Rubin

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— How do we create a culture of honesty within our relationship?

— What are some reasons someone might be dishonest?

— Why do we say “brutally honest”? Does being honest really have to be “brutal”? Can’t we be honest and kind at the same time?

— Does anyone practice “radical honesty”? Radical Honesty means simply to report out loud to another what you notice in front of you, in your body, and in your mind in the present moment.

— Even if your goal is to be honest 100% of the time, are there times you…


Love addicts and love avoidants play this “Game”

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By Nick Hatter

What drives someone to the secret society of pickup or “Game”?

As a reformed pickup artist myself, and having coached mPUAs (“master pickup artists”) via my life coaching practice in London, I believe I am well-qualified to share the six stages that every pickup artist goes through.

Stage 1: Trauma

The journey of a pickup artist begins here. Many PUAs have suffered childhood trauma, which includes physical, emotional and sexual abuse from parents and caregivers. They may also have experienced severe bullying at school which cripples their self-esteem and image. As a result, they develop a shame-based core.

Stage 2: Love Addiction

As a…

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