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Men are often held back by multiple, mental, critical voices that hijack our reality.

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By Pieter Van Winkle

Men are often held back by multiple, mental, critical voices that hijack our reality. We think they are us, when really they are just one part of us. They are not bad.

In fact, they’re actually trying desperately to protect us and keep us safe. They come online as we walk through the world, and come into contact with something that reminds us, even a little, of the pain of disconnection, overwhelm, or violation that occurred to us as children. …


The detritus left in the aftermath of the election.

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By Edie Weinstein

This morning as I was watching an interview that longtime journalist Katie Couric did with Mary Trump, niece of the outgoing President and author of Too Much and Never Enough: How My Family Created the World’s Most Dangerous Man a few things occurred to me. The first was the amazement that she has not received significant enough pushback from her uncle to prevent publication about her revelations of family dynamics that helped to form his persona and behaviors. As far as I know, she hasn’t needed to hire a security detail to keep her safe. While there have been denials about the details, as could be expected from a man whose two favorite words, it seems, are ‘fake news,’ she has largely gone unscathed. Her observations both as someone who grew up Trump and a Ph.D. psychologist lend credibility such that the book sold 1.35 …


Have you seen the online dating profiles requesting “No drama”? Arianna Jeret is over it.

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By Arianna Jeret

I was recently talking with a man I had been seeing casually for a while about being set-up on blind dates. Or rather, we were talking about friends and family who have tried to set us up with people who are entirely NOT either of our type.

In our back and forth detailing of ridiculous mismatches, he launched into one he seemed to feel would come across as particularly amusing:

“So my uncle said he had found me the perfect woman! Get this: she is in her late-30s or early-40s, divorced, and has 3 young boys! Are you kidding me?!” Pause with eyes wide open for my expected giggles and snorts — yes, I snort when I laugh. …


Love is supposed to bring you up and make your life better, not worse.

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By Shawn Doyle

I am amazed how many stories I read online, stories told by friends and people I meet, and documentaries I watch about individuals in love relationships that make them miserable and depressed and in a constant state of drama in their life. I think it is sad and I don’t understand it. Love is supposed to bring you up and make your life better, not worse.

Here are six scary signs that tell you that you are in the wrong relationship- and if you see many of these you need to get the heck out and find someone else. …


Don’t lie to yourself or the other person.

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By Sandy Weiner

Last Monday night, I offered a bonus Q & A call to my date coaching ‘Dating 101’ participants. I had so much fun on the call, answering the burning questions that my group posed about dating. Many of the questions were about online dating etiquette, such as who emails first, how to begin an online dating conversation, and how to know which online site is best. The questions were fabulous, and I will blog about many of them. Today, I’ve chosen one that I think has universal appeal.

How do you tell someone you’re not interested in them without hurting their feelings? …


How to be wildly successful at the game of life.

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By Jed Diamond Ph.D

Manhood today is maligned and misunderstood. Some believe maleness itself is inherently destructive and should be eliminated. In his book, The End of Manhood, John Stoltenberg says that the notion of manhood “is a sham, a trap, and those who would redeem it are kidding themselves, for manhood is a mask, incompatible with truly human selfhood.” Others view maleness as being superfluous. This idea is reflected in the witticism, “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.” Some view maleness as being unsuited for today’s world. In her book, The End of Men and The Rise of Women, Hanna Rosen says, “the feminist revolution is here. Women are on the rise and men are on the decline.” …


Sami Holden questions whose responsibility it is to label a relationship as exclusive.

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By Sami Holden

Dear Sami,

I’m in my early twenties, done with college, finally in the real world, and am trying to see what is out there for dating. With where I’m at, I’ve found it isn’t the easiest to meet new people without turning to on-line dating. The new people I do meet are either fellow musicians I interact with at open mic nights or sometimes girls back from where I went to college. The problem with meeting girls through mutual friends at the college I went to, is that it’s about a two hour commute from where I live now. It’s not an ideal situation. I went on two dates over the course of a month with one girl. Again, the commute isn’t great so it’s hard to see her frequently, although I did enjoy hanging out with her. She told me on our second date that she is still a virgin which I’m fine with. We made out, but nothing more than that. I was trying to be very respectful of where she’s at in life. She asked where I thought things were at. I told her honestly I wasn’t sure, but it was something we could sort out after I came back from a family vacation I was about to go on. Before the vacation, I went out with another girl, and had a third girl ask me out although no definitive plans were made. I tried to text the initial girl after there was a delayed response on my part (cell phone signal issues while on vacation). I apologized for the delay and expected to hear back. Nothing. I tried again. Nothing. I sent a text asking if something was wrong. She told me that she felt like I had made her a back-up option, and because of my small social circle it had gotten back to her that she was not the only person I was seeing. It seemed fairly new in getting to know each other to declare that she was my girlfriend. I am dating with the hopes of ending up in a relationship. …


Anything short of action in a relationship is a way of staying in one’s comfort zone.

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By Stuart Motola

Relationship is a confusing minefield for many men. That was once true for me during a 20-year marriage.

She says one thing one day and then something else another day. From I don’t know what she really wants to she’s nuts or I just want peace, a lot of men resign themselves to confusion and the status quo.

Yet, underneath is a feeling that he’s stuck and things will never improve.

Do you feel stuck in your marriage?

Often men give up when they feel stuck in a relationship. And yet they don’t do that at work. …


Life should come with a warning label: Life is hard but being a stubborn jackass is optional.

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By Sean Swaby

Am I the only one who feels this way: The older I get, my relationships become equally challenging. When I was a younger man, I assumed it would be the other way around: Relationships should get easier… but they don’t. One of my life themes is to take my relationships seriously, so I brainstormed why relationships seem to be about as easy as a Rubics’ Cube. I came up with a few reasons, which are below.

14 Reasons why being a stubborn jackass can seem like a good idea

a.Your kids get older and parenting demands more sophisticated boundaries and communication.

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