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By The Good Men Project Editors

We have a total of 8 publications on Medium.

From The Good Men Project:

Hello Love (Relationships) — Love changes us. Love makes us human.

Change Becomes You (Advice) — Life advice that will (actually) improve your life.

Equality Includes You (Social Justice) — Speaking up for humanity through intersectional social justice. Open to all.

A Parent is Born (Parenting) — Because the moment a child is born, a parent is born too.

Greener Together (Environmentalism) — Because the earth needs us. Pronto.

From Agents of Change:

Shelter Me (Wellness) — A refuge for…


Mark Liebenow knows the struggle and has a little advice.

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By Mark Liebenow

Sometime after the death of your spouse, you will begin to think about dating, especially if you liked being married. This may be in a month; it may be in five years. But whenever you start, you’ll probably feel guilty, like you’re cheating on your wife or husband.

Even if your spouse said that she wanted you to date again, you will feel odd about it in the beginning. And when that first kiss comes? Oh, boy. A whole bucket of emotions is going to spill.

From the statistics I’ve read, men remarry faster than women who…


In the past, we thought of trauma as a serious disruption in a person’s life such as the trauma of war, being raped, or facing death from a natural disaster.

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By Jed Diamond Ph.D

I have been a counselor for more than fifty years, but I’ve only been a trauma-informed counselor since I learned I had four ACEs. Let me explain. ACEs stand for “adverse childhood experiences.” The ACE studies began as a collaboration between the CDC and Kaiser hospital in 1998 and more than seventy research papers have been published since then.

The ACE studies found that adverse childhood experiences — including such common events as growing up in a family where parents were divorced, had alcohol or drug problems, or suffering from mental illness — harm children’s developing…


When a couple is willing to stop and ask, “Is this really worth fighting about?” the answer is usually, “no.”

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By Scott Barthelmes

It was January of 1996 and the Pittsburgh Steelers were about to face-off against the Dallas Cowboys in Super Bowl XXX. But, the biggest battle of the day wasn’t about to take place on the field at Sun Devil Stadium in Tempe, Arizona. It was going down in our kitchen back in Pittsburgh.

Did I mention what a fantastic job I was doing of properly tapping the keg?

My wife, Linda had decided that it would be fun to have group of our friends over to watch the Super Bowl. At that time: Linda and I had…


Whether it’s asking your love to find more time for you or getting the kids to clean their room, this is how to get what you want.

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By Karen Young

So many ways to use this one!

Whether it’s haggling for a vintage blue coat at a flea market, buying a car, getting your kids to clean their room or asking the person you love to find more time for you, new research has found the way to ask to give your request more muscle — and you more chance of getting what you want.

Let’s set a scene … You’ve been wandering around the antique market (and if you’re not into antiques, play along anyway — it’ll be worth it!) and you find the perfect armchair…


Tor Constantino shares 3 things he continues to do wrong — as well as 3 he does right — -that have helped his marriage last two decades.

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By Tor Constantino

Most anyone who’s been in any type of committed relationship understands how difficult it can be to stay together.

I’m living proof of that as my wife and I are celebrating 20 years of marriage this year.

To be clear, it hasn’t been easy to make our marriage last this long, but it has been worth it.

While we’ve had our share of ups-and-downs during that two-decade stretch, we’ve managed to overcome most of our individual shortcomings to keep our relationship moving forward.

And as our relationship has changed over the years, we’ve both matured and grown…


Speed and weed don’t mix.

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By Tim Clark

I’m not really a sports fan. I was almost a fan, for a while. Mostly, the idea of being a sports fan was appealing, but there were too many numbers; it went way beyond wins and losses. And every year, in every sport, they added more statistics, as if the world of athletics were being run by evil, cruel accountants. It was math homework all over again.

Then I started noticing some very bad numbers: coaches’ salaries, ticket prices, licensed team gear. It made the renaissance popes look miserly. How many people could be helped by giving…


Rather than looking outward to feel a sense of control, I began to seek my peace inwardly.

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By Juana Garcia

When I was a kid, I’d freak at the smallest little thing going wrong. I don’t know exactly what made me this way, but I was a huge ball of anxiety all the time. I had chronic insomnia and an erratic sleep schedule. I had digestive trouble and worried about anything and everything all the time. I thought everything had to be “perfect,” and I held myself and others to that impossible standard for the better part of my childhood and onward. …


Men have always wondered about the most complex (and simplest) thing in the world: what does she really want — and need — in me?

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By Marina Margulis

“What do women want?”

If I had a quarter for every time I heard this question, I would have buckets full of money!

Is it good looks in a partner that we, as women, desire?

Is it a man with money?

Is it prestige in his job that we’re attracted to?

The answer is very simple: a heterosexual woman in search of a relationship is looking for a “MAN.”

And no, she is not merely seeking a penis with a wallet.

She wants a “real” man.

So what does a “real man” look like? Are you a real man? How can…


Winifred Reilly learned how to play well with others in kindergarten —and sees how the same skills can help grown-up relationships.

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By Winifred Reilly

“Chew with your mouth closed!”

“Don’t hit your sister!”

So much of childhood is about learning the rules and then striving to follow them — at least occasionally.

While some rules are unreasonable — like being told to sit perfectly still at age five or made to skip recess, as I was, for doodling on my homework — the basic relationship skills that we learned as children were, in fact, of great value.

But somewhere between childhood and adulthood a lot of the good stuff we were taught about playing well with others gets forgotten or is…

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