Fragile Masculinity: What it Is and Why It Matters

We can all be oversensitive about our gender and its issues.

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  • The assertion of “men, too”
  • A feeling of offense on behalf of oneself or all men
  • Coming to the aid of unknown men without all the facts
  • An attempt to play devil’s advocate or present other sides to the story
  • Accusing others of being sexist against men
  • A discomfort with being seen as feminine in any way (example: avoiding pink shirts or activities that could be considered as more feminine than masculine)
  • A discomfort with being identified as a member of the LGBTQ+ community (example: loudly declaring what you’d do if a gay man hit on you, vociferously declaring your passion about women for all to hear, etc)
  • Clarifying that you aren’t (a) feminine or (b) gay when no one asked
  • Educating oneself on the broader issues of gender such as race, sexual orientation, and other factors
  • Listening to understand rather than to respond
  • Learning to be comfortable with traditionally masculine and feminine traits that are present in all genders
  • Learning to care less about what other people think in terms of masculinity, femininity, and sexual orientation
  • Starting a dialogue with someone of another gender, sexual orientation, and/or race about the areas where we’re feeling uncomfortable or uninformed
  • When accused of fragile masculinity, taking the time to investigate why, and work on that specific issue

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