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New Person, New Rules!
You are not going on a date with your ex — so why would you expect the same experience?
Assumption– a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof.
We are all a work in progress, so it’s a good idea to approach every new date with a fresh outlook. We have all heard what happens when we ASS-U-ME!
You are not going on a date with your ex — so why would you expect the same experience?
It is human nature to experience life through our personal history. But, some assumptions block us from being open to new possibilities. As we grow in our awareness about ourselves and what we want in relationships, it is critical to shed old assumptions that no longer serve us or align with our new values and/or goals.
I had an ex who was a bit of a curmudgeon, there were so many things he refused to do: stand in line, wait for a table, dance, the list goes on and on. When that relationship ended and I began dating, I would thank my dates profusely for the simplest common courtesy behaviors. One day, a great man I was seeing sat me down and asked me to stop.
He said, “this is normal, this is how people are supposed to treat each other, just say thank you”.
