Relationships Are Really Hard!

Ask yourself what you can do today, in the moment, this week, to feed and nourish it.

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By Bob Conlin

In the realm of romantic relationship, how many times have you thought or felt “It shouldn’t be this hard!” or “It’ll be so easy when I find the one”? Or, is your experience one that embodies the “Whelp, this is how it goes, fun at first, then gets hard, then screw it, suffer until one of you can’t stand it anymore and it ends catastrophically through infidelity, resignation, or perhaps a screaming match where your called a “bitch” or a “prick” or my favorite walking out of the room with hands in the air yelling “Just Fuck Off”. I’ll admit in the past I’ve been there and in the end no one’s needs are met, you’ve not demonstrated the best part of you, and there’s probably a whole bucket of anger and sadness to swallow. Total bummer.

Here’s the thing… RELATIONSHIPS ARE REALLY HARD… when they’ve been neglected, not worked on, and not intentional. When you and your partner have lost a voice, have lost the commitment, and have lost the passion …it’s hard. Here’s the other thing… IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE REALLY HARD… and putting energy into and working on your relationship(s) takes effort and intention. I believe it’s a myth that one does not have to work at or on a relationship. Here are some…