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Two Simple Truths To Beat Jealousy
Bryan Reeves has a vaccine for jealousy. Inoculate yourself now, before it sickens your relationship.
By Bryan Reeves
Jealousy.
That scourge of intimacy that, at its worst, can rob even the most sane person of his or her mental stability as it drags them disoriented and damned into a fiery living nightmare where they’re likely to be tortured by their own fantastical fictions.
When jealousy settles into a relationship the consequences can be severe, even fatal.
It happened to me a few years back.
Jealousy ate me and a past love alive from the inside out like Ebola. Relentless and ferocious, it took five years to eviscerate our relationship of every beautiful possibility it began with. When it finally finished us off, jealousy had left us with little but rage, resentment, and regret that took years to heal.
Jealousy essentially boils down to this: “I’m horrified you’re not going to choose me.”
It gets really bad when that horror grabs our innards and makes us act in awful ways that drive the person of our yearning even farther away — if not physically, then emotionally and psychologically.
